Thoughts, Observations, Impressions

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  • Question of the Day 4.5.24 đŸ¤§đŸ˜ˇ

    How have you adapted to the changes brought on by the Covid-19 pandemic?

    Not well.  I’ve had sinus problems since having COVID late last summer.  I never had sinus or allergy problems before that.

  • Helpful Hair Influencers for 4C Hair

    So called 4C hair trends often on social media platforms such as You Tube. 4C hair is tightly curled hair. I prefer the term nappy but the term is considered offensive by many if not most people. The term nappy needs to be used carefully.

    Nappy is a great descriptor. Kinky is OK with me too. When people talk about curly hair there is a broad range of images that come to mind. Nappy gets to the point which is what I prefer to do. There is nothing wrong or shameful with nappy hair. I said all that to get us on the same page or at least give you context.

    I have nappy, 4C hair. I use to watch You Tube hair tutorials about 4C hair. I stopped watching them long ago because I found them to not be helpful for numerous reasons. That is an essay all it’s own and I don’t feel like discussing that topic. I’m going to recommend You Tubers that I have found to be helpful with good advice for 4C hair.

    I think hair influencers that don’t focus on 4C hair or Black hair have the best advice. A lot of natural hair influencers and Black You Tubers want to talk about history, culture, rebellion against beauty standards and emotional trauma. They’re a drag and I didn’t click on their video for that.

    I clicked on their videos for good advice about hair health and styling ideas. Black women hair influencers are great innovators and trend setters. They are very creative but they leave a lot to be desired as far as hair health. Their number one piece of advice was to cut damaged hair. A lot of their tips for maintaining hair health seemed far fetched and it was often expensive and time consuming. Their hair routines were not practical at all.

    I like hair influencers that are not focused on 4c hair because they encourage the listener to find a hair routine that works for them. They talk to you about your hair the same as they talk to anyone else about theirs. 4c is not special or somehow different. 4c hair is neutral. The viewer with nappy hair is not burdened with a lot exhausting emotional baggage.

    For further context I use chemical relaxers on my hair. It’s a decision that was made for me as a child and I never changed even though I’m open to going completely natural in the future. For now my hair is graying and I’m interested in growing it out because longer gray hair may be a nice look. I’ve been very reckless with my hair in the past. I’ve used relaxers, dye and used heat for styling. I figured if I damaged it too bad I would just cut it into a pixie or bob. Now I want to take better care of my hair, get it healthy and gain more length and fullness. These You Tubers have offered good advice that I could apply to my 4C hair.

    Get Glam Fam

    This influencer stressed the importance of moisture for my hair type.

    Blowout Professor

    This influencer stressed the importance of a good, consistent hair routine.

    Sarah Ingle

    This influencer is very knowledgeable about hair. The first hair You Tuber that opened my mind to influencers outside of the Black community was a White woman with very long hair (not this one). I was attracted to her message because she encouraged viewers to do what works for them.

    She said she was sharing her hair advice because she receives a lot of questions and compliments about her long hair. She was very matter of fact. She didn’t put her hair texture on a pedestal the way I feel a lot of Black influencers put certain textures on a pedestal inadvertently.

    I have been applying what I’ve learned from these You Tubers and a few others and I’ve seen progress. My hair is in good condition and it’s growing slowly and gaining length. I’m enjoying my modest success. Those of us with nappy, kinky, 4c hair need to just think of our hair as just hair to be invested in and cared for instead of covered up and hidden. Black women with typical characteristics of those of African descent should be able to enjoy the hair that grows out of our head.

    My advice for women with 4c, kinky, nappy hair is to seek out good hair advice not necessarily 4c, kinky, nappy, Black hair advice. Seek out advice from influencers that speak directly and without drama and emotional turmoil. Unfortunately a lot of social media content geared towards women with kinky hair is a bunch of gaslighting nonsense that does more harm than good.

    Consider your own variables such as hair texture, finances and time constraints. Apply what you learn to your circumstances. Develop a healthy hair routine that promotes growth and a healthy scalp. Stop unhealthy hair routines that cause thinning edges and patterned baldness or break your bank, make demands on your time, causes stress or hurt feelings. Have fun styling YOUR hair with a healthy and nourishing hair routine.

  • Question of the Day 4.2.24 đŸĢ👩‍đŸĢ📚đŸ”ĸ📐

    Daily writing prompt
    Describe something you learned in high school.

    The Pythagorean theorem. I remember getting excited about learning that. I’ve never applied it anywhere except my eleventh grade geometry class and had to review it before writing this. Math was not my strong suit growing up but I sailed through geometry. Geometry class made me feel smart. 📚📏📐âšĒâŦ›

    https://www.britannica.com/science/Pythagorean-theorem

  • Question of the Day 4.1.24 â„ī¸

    Which aspects do you think makes a person unique?

    I think I’m a unique combination of sometimes juxtaposition characteristics, qualities, thoughts and experiences.  I’ve been writing on this blog for about six years now as a way to explain it all.  I’ve shared part of myself on the internet for anyone that would like to discover more for themselves.

  • Question of the Day 3.28.24 đŸ¤ 

    When you were five, what did you want to be when you grew up?

    Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader

  • Question of the Day 3.27.24 đŸŽ¤đŸŽļ

    What’s a secret skill or ability you have or wish you had?

    I wish I was a good singer. đŸŽ™ī¸đŸŽĩ

  • Untitled

    Ja Morant at the strip club with guns went viral so I’m sharing this young man making a statement for God out of fairness.

  • Spring Book Review: The Women in Me, Britney Spears

    I listened to “The Woman in Me” by Britney Spears last week. I enjoyed this book and I was impressed by Britney Spears. Britney told her story and she discussed her childhood, rise to fame, family dynamics and her conservatorship. There is a lot more to Britney Spears than pop culture consumers giver her credit for.

    This may sound odd but Britney is smart, creative, family oriented and spiritual. It’s not that I thought she was the opposite of these things but I just never thought about her beyond her music and videos. She came up with the concept for the video to her debut single “Hit Me Baby One More Time” and made pop history at sixteen years old.

    Britney is direct, honest and genuine.  I appreciate Britney’s candor in “The Woman in Me”.  I also think she is fair in her judgements of people. Britney is a tough cookie and an overcomer.

    Britney comes off as very quirky on IG but she’s been through some things that would make her a little odd. I think she has plenty of sense. 

    Despite being a sex symbol Britney has not been treated well by men.  Britney Spears had a relationship with fellow pop star Justin Timberlake.  Justin is a selfish douchebag.

    Justin and Britney lived together for some years while they were young. He cheated on her with different women. They conceived a child that he asked for her to abort which she did. He ended it all with a text message and then moved on.

    Britney’s ex husband and father of her sons is a snake that colluded with her family to what could be called bribery and extortion.

    Britney never had a good relationship with her family. Britney was the black sheep of the family that became a pop star.  They essentially kidnapped her, psychologically tortured her, used her children as bait, held her prisoner and robbed her for thirteen years until she petitioned to end her conservatorship with the support and encouragement of her fans.

    I feel like I understand Britney Spears a lot better now. If you are ever tempted to judge Britney Spears harshly give her a break.  She has had some unusual and crazy experiences. 

    The actress Michelle Williams did a good job of narrating Britney’s words.

  • Spring Book Review: Becoming, Michelle Obama

    Over the weekend I finally finished “Becoming” by Michelle Obama. It took me a while to get through this book but I enjoyed it overall. The former FLOTUS lived up to the moniker No Drama Obama and this book was a bit dry and boring but it’s worth it to push through. Michelle Obama is a remarkable woman with a remarkable story.

    The book starts out with Michelle’s childhood in a lower working class Black neighborhood on the south side of Chicago. It ends with the inauguration ceremony of Donald Trump. What a journey. Michelle Obama is an American treasure who made many sacrifices for the United States while supporting her husband’s ambition. She was treated terribly by many Americans but served and fulfilled her role with grace and tact while raising two daughters in the political limelight.

    I recommend this book for anyone that likes to learn about American history or influential women. Michelle Obama is a great role model in character, as a career woman, wife and mother.

  • Question of the Day 3.23.24 â˜ī¸đŸŒ§ī¸đŸŒ¨ī¸â›ˆī¸đŸŒŠī¸đŸŒĻī¸

    What is your favorite type of weather?

    Overcast and rainy regardless of the temperature.