Closure is a Hollywood illusion. In movies, TV shows and books people realize the error of their ways and take action to right their wrongs. They take accountability. Most people try to dodge accountability.
Seeking closure is a fool’s errand. Be honest with yourself about your observations and experiences. Make decisions in your best interest. There are many situations where you will never know the truth.
Jan holds herself accountable, respects her dad and is remorseful.
https://youtu.be/eHveuS3o8dk?is=5KDty1zRwquPfeJz
Most people don’t listen. They gaslight, deflect, defend their actions or make the other party the problem.
If the other party was trustworthy, cared, had respect for you and was actually a friend there probably wouldn’t be a problem in the first place. They’re unlikely to initiate an honest conversation with you about anything meaningful either. They aren’t actually interested in taking responsibility for their actions and they don’t care about anyone else’s feelings.
Seeking closure usually goes more like this.
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